In 2015 a new musical hit the theaters. It shook the musical theater world, and beyond. This musical is the hip-hop broadway smash, Hamilton. You may have heard of it. While I didn’t see it live, I did watch the movie of the play that was released this past year, and I admit to being dazzled and amazed by the songs, the story, the cast, the history, all of it.
In the second song of the musical, Alexander Hamilton meets his ultimate political rival and the man who eventually kills him, Aaron Burr. The song is called Aaron Burr, Sir. In the song Aaron Burr offers Hamilton what he considers “free advice.” Urging him to, “Talk less, smile more. Don’t let them know what you’re against or what you’re for.” At the end of the song Hamilton says to Burr, “If you stand for nothing, Burr, what’ll you fall for?” In the play, this ongoing difference between the two men leads to Burr’s political defeat, unrest between Hamilton and Burr, and their infamous duel resulting in Hamilton’s death.
The musical’s author, Lin Manuel Miranda, did a lot of research and tried to keep things as historically accurate as possible in the story. While I don’t know the history behind what Burr did or did not stand for, there is a quote that is attributed to Alexander Hamilton stating, “Those who stand for nothing, fall for anything.” It is fair to say that you need to know what you stand for, in order to know what you will stand against.
Let me share with you a story about my grandfather. He was the patriarch of our family. In his prime, he was only 5’ 2” tall, and at the end of his life he stood barely 5 feet tall. But he was a giant in my eyes.
Born Eustachio Giovanni Rischitelli on October 24, 1909 in Abruzzo, Italy. He moved to America when he was a young boy, only 12 or 13 years old. Upon arrival through Ellis Island the immigration officer told him that Eustachio Giovanni was too hard for Americans to say, and at that point he was renamed “John E. Rischitelli.”
He was the oldest of the six children. His parents died 6 months apart when he was just 24 years old. As the oldest sibling, he took in his 2 brothers and 3 sisters to help raise them. He brought them into his home with his pregnant wife and young daughter.
He never completed high school. Soon after his family arrived in America, he needed to quit school to help earn money to support his family. But he believed that education was one of the most important things you could have. He believed that with education and hard work you could do almost anything. He began working at American Optical, in Southbridge, Massachusetts. While working and raising his family, he went to night school to get his GED, his bachelors degree and eventually completed his Masters in Finance from Northeastern University in Boston MA. He worked for the same company, American Optical, his whole career. He worked his way up the ladder, beginning as a janitor and eventually retiring as the Vice President of Financial Affairs.
He died in 2002 at the age of 93. When he was older my mom and I would sometimes go and visit him. It was a special treat for me to sit by his side and hear his stories.
There is one story that bothered him until he passed away. While I don’t know all of the details, I know it was something that ate away at him. While working at American Optical, he found out that some of the other VPs and higher ups were taking bribes. He struggled with what to do. He knew that what they were doing was wrong, but he also feared the retaliation of being a whistleblower. He was a man of strong faith and strong convictions. Eventually, because he knew what he stood for, he also knew what he stood against, and he blew the whistle on his fellow workers. Right up until the day he died, this was something that bothered him, but he knew what he needed to do and did it. I’ve always admired that about him.
For a long time I struggled with identifying what I stood for. I’m the youngest of six kids. Part of a big, loud family. I adored my sister. At one point in my life, if asked, I probably would have said that I stood for her. I wanted to do anything and everything that she did. I even asked my mom if I could have my tonsils out simply because she had. This may have also had to do with the fact that she wouldn’t let me play with her stuffed animal because I “still had my tonsils,” but that’s another story for another time.
Being from a large family, I spent a long time trying to shrug off my family and find out who I was without them. Not really knowing who or what I was, I was easily persuaded to fall for things. I got myself into some pretty negative and abusive relationships. I changed my ways to try to keep the peace. I gave up myself to make someone else happy. But that didn’t work. It never does. Because I didn’t stand for me, I fell for anyone. After my second divorce I finally did the hard work of defining who I was and figuring out what I would, and wouldn’t, stand for. I have learned the importance of taking a stand and knowing my own limits.
I have also learned that in taking a stand, I am not alone. God is right alongside me. He is strong and through him, I too can be strong. He knows the struggles we are faced with in this world. He knows that the Devil is out there waiting to pounce on us. He also knows that we cannot handle it all on our own. But when we use the weapons that God has given us, we are stronger. There are 3 weapons that God has shown me that have helped me the most.
First is God’s word, the bible. This is one of the strongest weapons we have. When we immerse ourselves in his word, we are stronger. When we doubt or question or wonder what to do, we can turn to his word. There are promises and guidance and answers right there waiting for us.
Second, is prayer. When we find ourselves at a loss and we don’t know where to turn or what to stand for – pray. He hears our prayers and he sends us just what we need right when we need it. Praying for others is also an incredible weapon. Luckily, we are not in this world alone. We have each other here with us, and God encourages us to pray for and with each other.
The third weapon that God has shown me to be invaluable is LOVE. All kinds of love. Love for God. Love for each other. Love for self. And the love that still amazes me is the incredible, never ending, self sacrificing love that God has for us. For me.
When we stand for God, he will be sure we fall only for him.
Lord, you know the struggles that each of us face, the decisions we need to make on a daily basis. You know that the devil is right here attempting to distract and discredit us. God, you are strong. Help us to turn to you always so that you can strengthen us and help us to take a stand for you.